I’ve decided to write this blog as this was a TOUGH time. I’m going to write how I survived the dreaded 4 month sleep regression.. trust me it was a matter of survival getting through this stage!
So, first off what is the 4 month sleep regression? Basically it’s when your baby’s sleeping pattern changes. They go from being able to sleep like a new born through anything, to suddenly doing adult sleep cycles. When a baby goes to sleep they instantly fall into a deep sleep. Where as us as adults have a sleep cycle, we go from light sleep to deep sleep throughout the night. The 4 month sleep regression is when your baby begins to do the same.
How do you know your baby has hit the 4 month sleep regression? Oh trust me on this one, you will know! Babies usually go from being quite good sleepers on a nighttime to suddenly waking up LOADS! Freddie went from waking for 1 or 2 feeds during the night to suddenly waking every 40 minutes to an hour! He was basically waking up once one sleep cycle was over! It was worse than having a new born!! I almost always want to pre-warn all these parents that say.. oh my gosh they sleep so well on a nighttime! I mean that is great, lucky you.. but make the most of it! Don’t get me wrong, some people manage to somehow skip the sleep regression, and they are very very lucky people! But I think 90% of babies hit this sleep regression and it hits hard! You might find your baby has also suddenly started to refuse their day time naps too at this stage! Your tired, your baby’s tired.. it’s a tough time. When you go through the sleep regression.. you have all my sympathy, it’s hard!
Heres how we survived ours.. everyone might tackle it differently! But I found now was the best time to start sleep training. The first few nights I will admit I did whatever it took to get through it! It’s a good time to attempt to drop your associations to sleep such as rocking, picking up etc.. it’s a great time to try and teach them how to self-soothe back to sleep! I found what worked best for us was me popping my hand on Freddie’s chest and saying ‘shhh’. Although he kept waking up, he went back off quite quickly that way. I was reassuring him I was still there, without picking him up. If you found that your baby wasn’t needing much milk during the night, try not to suddenly start feeding them every time they wake up! They will begin to associate waking up with milk and want it every time! Sam even set up in the spare room until it was over! It was only fair seen as he was up for work so early. He still helped out on a weekend so I could rest up!
Freddie’s sleep regression lasted about 2 weeks, it felt like a lifetime. Apparently it can last anywhere from 10-30 days.. so all I can say is good luck! Find what works for you! You know when I said in my blog about your new chapter with a newborn.. one of my top tips was ask for help? Yeah you may need that again at this stage. Try and rest up whenever you get an opportunity! If your anything like me things became very emotional for me. Whenever I become tired I just cry, all the time!
(These amazing thought bubbles are from @bearsy.and.the.boy on instagram)
This was the reality of our sleep regression, bags under my eyes.. and although I don’t actually drink coffee (so this thought bubble is a lie haha!) I feel it is very true for a lot of mums out there currently experiencing this! How could I ever have been made at that little face though! Have plenty of PJ days and don’t feel guilty about it! Don’t feel like you have to get up and make yourself look presentable. Your allowed to slob around and save your energy for the night ahead.
Just remember, it’s not forever.. but there is more sleep regressions! So don’t get too excited thinking you’ve made it. But rest up ready for the next one! The others aren’t permanent changes with their sleep though, so shouldn’t last as long! I hope 🤞🏼